love...monogamy...real love (?)

so i was cleaning, and a thought hit me...

so everyone (or many) want to meet that perfect someone. that one guy or girl that you can spend the rest of your life with.

but im starting to think that this expectation is a little unachievable. not because im a pessimist....on the contrary, i think real love is cool (understatement of the year) but think about it:

so i have friends, guys and girls. but just looking at my girl-friends i realize they aren't perfect. There is something different and unique i appreciate in every one of them that i don't see the same in another. one likes to chill and be a homebody and one likes to go out and party. one will talk endlessly about randomness and another likes to be concise and to the point, no questions asked. one is all about family, and another has a different perspective on what the perfect family life will be, one that probably won't include kids. i guess the point is, they aren't perfect.

no one person can have everything you want. nor can you be everything someone else needs. all you can really do is be you. isn't that what makes things work? isn't that what makes life perfect?

so, for me to be cool with the fact that my friends collectively hold the qualities that i cherish, then to turn around and expect one guy to have what they have collectively seems...off.

so...marriage? so...monogamy?

for example. not everyone is cool with the idea of being in a relationship with multiple people. for example, being with a guy that can lay it down in the bedroom (or wherever you decide to go ;-) ... and at the same time, being with a guy that you can talk with forever...and with a guy that loves to go out to eat, to movies, to clubs, and is adventurous - will go hiking, or road trip somewhere with you, etc...and being with a guy that you can just be a homebody with (without having to worry if he is bored)...

i am starting to think that this is okay...

why? cause it just seems more realistic. but the problem comes in with issues of respect. i have no problem being in this kind of relationship(s) if there is honesty. i'm talking : i'll be monogamous with the dude that puts it down cause that's just healthy. with the others, it won't get to a point where the first needs to be jealous. at the same time, everyone should know about everyone else - not hide the fact that some days, i'm hanging with this person, and not you. and that everyone has the freedom to do what they want to do. i think that hiding things is where you get into trouble - that starts the lying, and i just can't trust or respect a liar. and if things change, i.e. you find someone that is seemingly just the perfect match (i am a hopeless romantic even after all) then our relationship
STOPS. 


i have too much respect for others to cheat. its just rude. we can be friends, but thats all...

and its not all black and white. maybe you only really need two people - like a type a and type b - maybe people change (wow, novel thought) and your relationships change from wanting to be with mr. crazy all the time to just mr. chill. Then you and mr. crazy become friends...less time, less committment with each other...

i hit a quandry - what's the difference between a friendship and a relationship? traditionally, it seems the only thing separating the two is sex...the gender and the physical act... wow, thats hella superficial....

back to cleaning.